Oh Dear Love

Oh dear Love, why must you blur people's vision? You make me want to slap some folks on the side of the head one time real, REAAAL hard. 

Okay okay, that's kind of mean. Sorry! but seriously, I am sick and tired of this so called "love" keeping people away from the plan that God has for their lives.

Don't get me wrong, I do have a heart and sympathize with those who are blinded by "love" to an extent. Being that I do have feelings and I am a young woman, I get it. I get the whole lovey-dovey stuff. But what I don't get is when individuals let themselves be completely guided by their emotions. The bible even warns us about this!  "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9

I mean, we all let ourselves be taken away by our emotions one time or another, and there is nothing wrong with it. As long as we don't act spontaneously and switch back God's will instead of acting in our will, we are fine.
It's just crazy to me how some people are all "God do your will in my life" and "I will obey my pastor" and then when their Pastor doesn't agree with who they want to date all of a sudden that doesn't count anymore. WHAAAAAT? How is "love" an exception? Plus, even though it may hurt to pull away for a while, it can be done. We can conquer our heart.

I just... ugh. I don't even know. It's frustrating to me. It really really really is. There are so many examples of what can happen when you don't obey your Pastor about who you date, and there are so many sad sad stories of failed relationships, that it is hard for me to understand when people go through with a relationship that is not in God's will (how bout that for a run-on sentence eh?)

Haven't heard of any? Okay here are a few.

1. "X" married "Y", even though her pastor told her that he felt that "Y" wasn't for her. Years later "X" cheated on her husband with a new convert and they got a divorce. 
2. "A" married "B". "A's" pastor/dad wasn't okay with the wedding. It was so bad that her pastor/dad decided not to even attend "A's" wedding. Years later "B" cheated on her, fought custody of their little girl and won. "A" still doesn't have custody of her little girl and she has to drive 6 hours if she wants to see her.
3. "M's" pastor told him that he thought he shouldn't marry "N". "M" told his pastor that with all the respect in the world, that was the one thing that he wasn't going to obey. "M" left his church and came to "N's" church and married her. "N" is no longer intertested in "M", even though "M" is still in love with her. They are separated.

Sad isn't it? I don't want to be another name on loves imposter's wall, and I don't want anybody I know to be on that wall of fame/shame either.

Here are two observations about this love-blindness.
People who are love-blind:

1. Chose their will over God's will.
This is very dangerous and disastrous for so many reasons. Seriously, if we marry the wrong person we can ruin God's will for our life. There is also the danger that we will never be able to reach our full potential in God.  
 What if God wanted Susie to marry a Missionary but instead she married the sound man? (This is NOT to put sound men down, but hopefully you get the picture )Or what if God wanted Bob to marry somebody else that was not Betty because he knew that Betty would not be able to handle the ministry and leave him and his church 30 years later?

2. Disobedience opens the door for more disobedience.
"For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the Lord, he hath also rejected thee from being king" 1 Samuel 15:2

Yep, that's right disobedience=rebellion=sin. Sin leads to more sin. I don't think I need to write on this more, it's pretty clear on what can follow.

Okay, I think that it is all I have to write for now, it feels pretty good to vent about this! 
Also, as of right now Friday, June 29, 2012 at 9:33 PM, I give you, the reader, permission to personally slap me or cyber slap me if you find out that I am so love-blind that it is affecting my walk with God and it is causing me to act out of God's will.

BUT, I do not give you permission to slap me or give me anything if you see me sick someday. You know, love sick. ♥ heh. heh.

P.S Isn't that picture adorable? it made me giggle.
P.S.S I will be going on a blog fast for the month of July. But don't forget about my blog! I'll be going to Heritage this year and will post all about when I get back. yay!


  1. Anali,

    Awesome, passion-filled post. Love it and totally agree! So many of our young people are falling into that trap and I will definitely give you a wake up call if I see you falling into that trap! :) Love you girlie!

  2. Duuuuuuuuuuude....PREEEEEEEEEEEACH ANALI!!! This is WHY I absolutely REFUSE to marry a man that is divorced!!! As an OLDER single YOUNG lady...LOL... many girls my age are saying, at this point who cares? WEEEELLLL you know what...I have waited THIS LONG and I REFUSE to settle for someone that made a HUGE MISTAKE...If all the guys MY AGE are taken or divoreced weeeeellll you know where i'll be lookin...HAHA!!!! J/k!!! I am waiting ON GOD!!! I ALMOST made a HUGE mistake once...buuuuut...God kept me from marrying the wrong guy and from now on I have made up my mind NOT to be DESPERATE!!! Soooo yeah...I totally agree with you!!! PLUS, for me, I was raised in a home with one parent NOT living for GOd and it was NOT a good situation and so I DO NOT EVERRRRR want my children to have to go through that!!! Okaaaaaaaay thats it....I totally agree with you and i'm sure you remember my phone convo with you about this...LOL!

  3. I was one of those who sat in my pastor's office as he told me, "this guy in not for you." I remember crying my 23 year old eyes out. Would I be an old maid forever?? But I'm SO glad I listened! The pain was temporary.

    And Mary, I was raised in a home with only one parent living for God, too, so I know what you mean. It's SO important to be equally yoked.

    If I had FB, I'd post it on my wall hahahhaa

    Aaaaaaaaahhhh...I can think of a few people I wish I could pound this into their brains...


  5. That's some good stuff, the will of God should be the most important thing in our lives. Its always sad for me when I see young teenagers who get caught in stuff like this instead of putting there focus on the Lord. I went through the same thing, but my pastor helped me see through the haze of that so called "love". and By the way that part about susie marrying the sound man had me laughing.
    P.S. Im the sound man at my church LOL

    1. Hi Creeper.. I Love you :) Let's go down memory lane shall we?

  6. Chloee: Thank you, and I can't really imagine you slapping anybody. You're too sweet :)

    Mary: Hold up, you better NOT be thinking on going after the guys in MY age group!! HAHA JK JK and I honestly admire you for knowing what you want and STICKING TO IT. Like I've told you before, I sincerely think that your testimony will help a lot of girls in the future as well as RIGHT NOW.
    I also live in a home where only one parent lives for God, and although my dad has never gotten in the way of church and has a really good attitude, I want my future home to be completely committed to God.

    Sister McElhaney: Thank you for being obedient and showing us young people that God really does work things out for those who want to please him.

    Bethany: You liked it because I mentioned something about a Missionary huh? haha. And unfortunately it's hard to get ANYTHING into the heads of those who CHOSE to be guided by their emotions. sigh..

    Joe: Everybody goes through a love-blind moment, and thank God for those who come out of it alive! and LOL hahahahahahahahah about the sound man thing!!!! that is SO funny for SO many reasons!!! lol

  7. PREACH IT!! *waving hankie*

    GIRL, you are so dead on. It is SO Very Sad but this is a common occurrence. The only thing that we can do for ourselves is to pray pray PRAY for God to guard and guide our hearts to the right person.

    And yes, the cartoon is too cute!

    1. Jen, I had thing mental image of you sitting at a pew with a huge hat on saying "PREACH IT GURL!" hahaha!
      And yes, praying is all we CAN do for ourselves and for others.

  8. Great post love! Amen Amen Amen...

    @Mary: great response! ;)

  9. Anali, you should write a book. lol Honestly though, there are a LOT of young people that need this!! Thank you for being a voice!

  10. Thank you ladies. I guess being blunt can be good at times. :)


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