Love Isn't Enough

** Before I start this blog post, please keep in mind that what is said on this post is solely my opinion and does not apply to married couples.*

*Also, please bare with me through the blog post, if you only read the beginning it may be taken out of context. Thanks :)**

In Song of Solomon 8:6 it says "for love is strong as death". Isn't that a strong statement? Think about it.. "for love is strong as death". Wow!

But what is real love? We know the biblical context of love, and we know that Jesus loved us enough to die for us, but what about now? Of course, I'm not going to sit here and try to explain what real love is, because at my young age I don't think I can.

What I can say is that I believe real love (in a romantic relationship) comes after marriage. You know, after you've seen your loved one with morning breath, sick to their stomach, messy hair and all  (I know my humor is gross, but that's one thing that nursing school does to you. lol)-- After your relationship has been strengthened through trials and troubles. 

And honestly, It's hard for me to think or believe that love is that strong during the courting days. Although I do believe there is a "type" of love that exists before marriage, but not that  concrete/strong love that can only come after marriage. 

You must be asking "Okay soooo where are you going with this?"

Well if you are asking yourself this, I congratulate you, you are as impatient as I. But here is where I am going with this. 

Throughout the years, I've known countless young ladies (can't speak about the guys) who think that when they "fall in love" with somebody, they must stay with them. As if "love" was a fairy dust that can make all your premarital problems go away.


"Love"- or that particular definition of love, cannot fix legitimate problems. 
It cannot:
  • Stop continual fights between you two
  • Stop his/her temper
  • Stop his/her shopping addiction
  • Change his/her selfishness
  • Stop them from being self-centered
  • Change his/her worldiness
  • Stop an addiction 
and the list can go on and on and on..  
If you are in a relationship with somebody that has traits that you would not like your husband/wife to have, then why stay with them? 

Let me explain where this rant is coming from. 

I have a friend that is near and dear to my heart (not in church) and she tells me about certain things her boyfriend does that makes her mad. You see, this lovely lady is traditional and comes from a different country, and thinks "love" conquers all.  But all I keep thinking in my head is "run sweet girl, run, run, run".

"Love" is not a reason to stay with somebody.

It's an nasty statement, but it's true.

If somebody is not husband/wife material, staying with them will only hurt you in the long run. 

Okay, the blogging itch is gone, so now I'm done.

Man, I must be so annoying with my strong opinions and all. Oh well, it's my blog so I can rant all I want. lol ;)